When You Can’t Change Things

When You Can’t Change Things

 

When Nothing Can Be Done...

In times of loss, the holidays can hurt. Our students’ behavior may deteriorate, partly because the holidays bring their own sense of fun...and partly because they are a reminder that someone or something is missing from our own lives.  And...our behavior can change if we have had a tough year.  Instinctively, we want to close our eyes and make the reminders of our circumstances go away. Unfortunately, we can't; the holidays will happen with or without our permission.

Since you can't really forget, plan to remember. There are things you can do when nothing can be done. There are things you can choose not to do if they would be hurtful.

Remember:

• Something from your childhood.
• Something from your adult years.
• Something since your loss.

Do:

• Find a way to remember
• Be good to yourself.
• Spend time with family or friends.
• Spend some time alone.
• Create a new memory or tradition.
• Hold on to an old memory or tradition.
• Give to someone in need.
• Find a way to love your kids/grandkids.
• Laugh
• Cry.
• Ask, “What Would He/She Want Me To Do?
• Give Yourself Permission to Grieve
• Give Yourself Permission to Enjoy!

Don't:

• Don’t spend time with toxic people.
• Don’t forget the “reason for the season.”
• Don’t allow yourself to wallow in the cynical.
• Don’t be “Super-Mom/Dad.”
• Don’t forget to dream.

Oh...and Remember:

1. •“This, too, shall pass.”

Enjoy your holiday season.  January begins another year.

Join us on LiveStream at 9:00 AM PST on November 11 to discuss getting through the holidays.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011