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Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Parenting Isn't For Sissies!

Parenting Isn't For Sissies! 

(Neither is teaching!)

Come to think of it, neither is life.

Just out of college, eager to please, eager to succeed, I still remember what my master teacher taught me.  In case you wonder, that was a lot of years ago...and I still try to live by his words.  He said, "Sharon, you want the students to like you, and that's normal.  But it doesn't matter how much they like you until they respect you.  You have to earn their respect first."

That is also powerful advice for parenting.  Sometimes you have to be the "bad guy."  In today's world, that means being alert, aware, and involved in every aspect of their lives.  It means actively partnering in their education.  It means knowing their friends and their friends' families.  It means sometimes saying "No," when everyone else says "Yes."  It means teaching them life skills.

It means partnering with them.

I don't remember the topic, but my son and I were having a discussion.  I disagreed with a decision he made.  When I realized it was escalating to an unhealthy level, I called a truce.  I said,

"I don't know why we are fighting.  I want you to win!"

He responded, "It sure doesn't feel like it!"

I said, "I am your mother.  I want more for you than you want for yourself.  I want success for you beyond your greatest dreams.  I'm always on your side.  Right now, I don't think you are making a wise decision.  It isn't a dangerous decision so you have the right to make it.  I just want you to hear what I have to say first."

Everything about our relationship changed that day.  We were on the same team.  I had always known that.  Now he did.  We could listen to and respect one another.  We were partners in his life, based on mutual respect.   We were no longer at war.

Check out our powerful YouTube Video for a tool to help you talk with your children or students.

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Sunday, October 1, 2017

If It Affects Your Body, It Affects Your Brain

What Happens?
When children struggle to succeed in the classroom, they finally reach a point where they think (perhaps subconsciously), "I would rather be seen as belligerent than stupid." At that point, they "cop an attitude" and say they don't care, they don't like the teacher (or the teacher doesn't like them), the work is stupid...the list goes on.

My Parenting Story.
For some reason, my son's math homework was always inconsistent.  He would do one problem right, but miss another that required the same skills and was about the same level of difficulty.  Sometimes he could do the difficult problems but would miss the simple ones.  Each evening I would check his work, mark those that were wrong, and have him correct them.  Nothing seemed to change.  

I thought he was just being careless.
Years later, we discovered that he has a vision disorder that intensifies with stress and fatigue.  When he did homework late in the evening, what looked to me like careless errors actually were his eyes malfunctioning.   

If it affects your body, it affects your brain.  If your child's academic performance is inconsistent, look to physical causes:

Illness (in the child or the family)
Hearing Problems
Eye-Hand Coordination Problems.  (Behavioral Optometrists specialize in these).
Nutrition.  (Dr. Daniel Amen recommends you "eat the rainbow" every day).

Hear my personal story through our YouTube Video, featured this month:  The Eyes Have It! 

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Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Build a Bridge, Not a Wall; Not a War

When our children are angry at us...at a friend...at a teacher...at life, they either:

     Act out or
     Wall off

We teach them to win their arguments by using the skill of "Feedback."  They are to "Build a bridge, not a wall, and not a war."  When they find themselves angry, they:
  1. Take a deep breath
  2. Think about it for a few moments
  3. Assume the other person wants to resolve the conflict (usually they do after they cool down)
  4. Ask non-threatening questions (tone of voice has a lot to do with how the other person perceives a threat)
  5. Provide new information and ask for clarification
  6. Put their emotions, assumptions, and body language into words and ask for clarification
I wish our politicians and protesters would use these skills.  Win-win is the only acceptable resolution.  When we think "win-lose," we may win the battle...but we always lose the war.

Is your child the victim of bullying?  Watch our YouTube video "The Power of the Walk Away," (click below).  Glean wisdom from Shirley Zink, director of the SACK Foundation (Simple Acts of Care and Kindness):

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Monday, July 31, 2017

Back to School: Parents are Partners

It's "Back to School" time, and parent-school partnerships are in bloom.

I once asked a teacher, "How can we get more parents involved in your school?"
His response?  "Why would we want to?"

Fortunately, few teachers feel this way.  Schools need and want parent partners.

I am an educator.  My son had been in kindergarten for 4 weeks, and I had been called in for 5 parent conferences.  They were painful.  I kept thinking, "I'm supposed to be giving these, not getting them."

But...his kindergarten teacher was a master.  She jumped on potential problems before they had a chance to become bad habits.  She was both kind and direct in her comments, and she listened to my responses.  She changed the way she was approaching him.  She understood that she needed to teach to each child rather than lumping every child into a box and asking them to conform.

Today my son is a sociologist in a management position.  Prevention is always lest costly than cure.

When we envision schools as an equal partnership...school, parent, student, we watch our children blossom.

Parents, remember you have power in your child's school. 

Dr. Kogee Thomas runs a parent-school partnership that works!  Glean from her wisdom in our YouTube Video:  Parent Power:

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Saturday, July 1, 2017

What Would You Pay to Be Free?

Freedom is the theme of our July celebrations.  We are free to disagree.  We are free to express our opinions.  Sadly, we are even free to say and do hateful things.

What does freedom cost you?

Some paid for our freedom with their lives.  Some paid for our freedom with their children, their fathers, or their grandchildren.  When we pay personally, we have an entirely different perspective. But freedom, to sustain itself, must be reborn every generation in the hearts of our children.

"Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same, or one day we will spend our sunset years telling our children and our children's children what it was once like in the United States where men were free."  Ronald Reagan

How can we teach our children to both honor the price of freedom and accept the responsibility of self discipline?  Tough questions!

Listen to our July 4 YouTube post for some thoughts:

Friday, June 2, 2017

Amp Up For Summer!


It's time to AMP UP FOR SUMMER!

Should your children go to summer school?
Do your children need medical help over the summer?
How do you plan a great summer without breaking the bank?

Watch this video to find out!

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Tuesday, May 2, 2017

The Learning Emergency Room

The school year is ending. So much to learn! So little time!

Cram? No!

Enter the Learning Emergency Room!

Work Smarter, Not Harder!

Here are four last-minute tools to maximize your study time and help you catch up in class:
  1. Divide and conquer.  Study only what you don't know.  Students who tell me they studied all night and still failed the test are reviewing, not studying.  Identify what you need to learn and study only that, in 15 minute spurts (see number 3).
  2. Use your whole brain.  Identify what you need to learn.  Then express it some other way:  Draw it, dance it, mime it, sing it, translate it into another language.  This will help you recall if you draw a blank on the test. 
  3. Take advantage of your subconscious.  Your brain tires quickly, and your subconscious replays what you last put into it. So...instead of cramming all night, study in short spurts.  Cram for 15 minutes; sleep for 2 hours; cram for 15 minutes; sleep for 2 hours.
  4. Make a list...even if you're not a list person!  Those of you who hate lists and schedules also forget.  A list will help you remember what you have to do. It can remind you without controlling you!
Happy learning!  Happy vacation is coming!  Happy parents!  Happy grades!

Happy Going Home From The Emergency Room!